The Love Language

  I recently have been seeing everywhere about the 5 love languages as if it were some recently discovered bible, but for me, this is no different than in any other existent communication theory. Even though we are mainly visual, kinesthetic or auditive, there are a million ways we can show love; through the way you look at them, they way you touch. But its all about the way we do it. That's why it's not as simple as to say I love you because I gift you, or because I touch you. Either touch or gifts, can have several meaning depending on the context or intention. This is why, every act, look, gift, touch or word, can be a form of love, if it is done with such place. 

Beyond describing the ways in which we can love, the key relies in defining what love is. Love is not a word, a gift or a touch, love is giving what the other person needs regardless of what I need or is convenient to me. Love is to look beyond myself and really see the other person; who they are, what they need, and act it. Love is not only giving what I have, sometimes love requires change. Love heals, is safe, love is selfless, love is self-aware and it is effort. Sometimes it is staying close, and sometimes it is accompanying in distance. Love is kind, love is wise and love is prudent.

It is import to learn the ways in which we naturally and effortlessly express ourselves, not to have others acknowledge and settle for what we are already good at, but to exercise and gown in the ones we aren't. Love is wanting to give the best version of me, and that in the end, is who we really are. Learning how to love deeper and more diversely will not limit ourselves, because we are not only what we know how to do, we are also the potential to become everything we can.

 

The real love language is to go beyond our ego; what we think we are, what we have told we are, and from beyond ourselves, what we need, what we want, what we expect, to express, unconstructed ideas of love. To listen like we have never listened before, to touch like its the first time, to see beyond what our eyes see...whatever we do, to do it from our core, from that place where tenderness, strength and joy. Because love is an energy behind the form and the real love language is to never conform.

 

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